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I often think of the well-known expression 鈥減erfect is the enemy of good鈥� when I am endlessly rewriting an article to make it better (when it is already good enough) and in the process just make or even miss a deadline. But this old saying also reflects the dark view many people have of perfectionism. As a personality trait, it is seen as obsessive and at times pathological. People who are perfectionists may become so focused on setting a high standard for themselves that they live their lives as if graded constantly on a report card.

But perfectionism has a bright side, too. Desirable aspects of this personality trait include conscientiousness, endurance, satisfaction with life, and the ability to cope with adversity. This helps explain why some perfectionists become corporate leaders, skilled surgeons, or Olympic champions.

Dr. Jeff Szymanski, a clinical instructor of psychology at Harvard Medical School and executive director of the International OCD Foundation, believes it is possible to become a better perfectionist鈥攂y building on the strengths of this quality and learning to minimize its drawbacks. In his new book, The Perfectionist鈥檚 Handbook, he discusses this theory in greater detail and provides exercises people can try at home.

I recently talked with Dr. Szymanski about his book. He says a key step in becoming a better perfectionist is to learn how to turn mistakes into strategic experiments.

鈥淧erfectionism is a phobia of making mistakes,鈥� Dr. Szymanski says. 鈥淧erfectionists are hard on themselves, very self-critical. But in beating themselves up, they end up demoralizing themselves.鈥�

In the video that accompanies this post, Dr. Szymanski outlines a process for turning mistakes into strategic experiments. 鈥淭he core of all perfectionism is the intention to do something well,鈥� Dr. Szymanski says. 鈥淭he challenge is to think about doing it differently.鈥�

But that is often where he encounters resistance to change. 鈥淎s soon as I talk with someone who is a perfectionist about changing the way they do something, the defenses go up,鈥� says Dr. Szymanski. 鈥淲hat I learned is that they thought I was telling them to lower the bar and be average. But that isn鈥檛 what I鈥檓 saying. The intention to do well isn鈥檛 the problem. What I鈥檓 challenging is the strategies that people use to achieve their goals.鈥�

Suppose someone wants to become a better writer. The intention is laudable. But a perfectionist may approach this goal by editing copy excessively, or ruminating about a sentence that isn鈥檛 working before moving on to the next. These counterproductive strategies lead to missed deadlines and loss of confidence. Many perfectionists then dwell on their mistakes and failure to accomplish their goal.

As an alternative, Dr. Szymanski suggests stepping back from the task鈥攊n this case, writing鈥攊n order to come up with different ways to accomplish it. To return to the example above, the individual could try writing for 10 minutes without editing. By using this strategy, Dr. Szymanski says, people often find that their writing becomes better and smoother than when they stop and pick at it along the way.

And if one option doesn鈥檛 work, try another. Focus less on the mistake than on finding a solution. 鈥淗ealthy perfectionists are problem solvers,鈥� Dr. Szymanski says. 鈥淭hey make the most of their mistakes.鈥�

For more information about 天博体育 Publishing鈥� new book, The Perfectionist鈥檚 Handbook, including ordering information, see /perfectionist.

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